On dialogue
“Breaking things up which are not really separate”
The first thing that caught my eye. We are trying to make everything logical. We want that everything has its place. I tend to do it in my own life - and I came with the realization, that it just makes things more difficult.
Also, this happens on a bigger scale. Everything is tangled. We won't solve any problem in this manner - as a society. Yes, it's a naive idea that the world's problems will be ever solved by dialogue, but why don't even try? After all, great changes started as ideals, didn't they?
The movement of a dialogue
We should forge about formulas that we tend to follow. Dialogue is not a way to get from point A to point B. It's a much more chaotic way of communication, which is completely okay.
Blocked
Some topics just make us "blocked". What does it mean? Simply we are not able to do dialogue. We have strong assumptions or even traumas that won't free us to be open to dialogue.
Well, I tend to be blocked. If I don't focus on my "blocks" I easily tend to fall into this hole. It's interesting because before this I used to think that I'm this open-minded person, which is still true, but not 100% of the time.
We should be open to questioning our fundamental assumptions.
"And you mustn’t worry too much whether you are or are not having a dialogue—that’s one of the blocks."
Discussion
I don't think it is necessary to our "enemy" and we should avoid discussion in all cases. It is just a different thing. It is more like an analysis. We present our points of view and perceive others' opinions, we can change our original idea, but still, we're trying to win.
Circle, no leader, no agenda
To start with the facilitator is not a bad idea. He explains to the group what is happening in dialogue (or more likely in the attempts of it).
"His function is to work himself out of a job."
