I bought this book, because I was curious how successful groups work, and what their secret path to success is.
Bellonging cues:are behaviours that create a safe connection in groups.
They include:
“We used signals, long before language, and our brains are incredibly attuned to certain types of behaviors”
Environment for belonging cues:
Successful team success not because their members are smarter but because they are safer.
The successful teams have a distinct pattern of interaction. The pattern of interaction is located not in big things but in little moments of social connection.
The content dont matter as much as the set of cues we deliver and receive our messages.
When you receive a belonging cue, the our amygdala (responsible for protecting processes in your thoughts) in the brain switches roles and starts to use its neural power to build and sustain your social bonds.
The vulnerability loop:
The communication in a team should generates confessions,discomfort, and authenticity that break down barriers between people and tip them into a deeper connection. This interaction can be called a vulnerability loop. A shared exchange of openness, its the most basic building block of cooperation and trust.
Vulnerability loops follow these steps.
“Vulnerability doest come after trust - it precedes it.”
The successful group succeeds because they understand that being vulnerable together is the only way a team can become invulnerable.
P.S. I love this book. It's the best non fiction book that I have ever read. It was hard to stay focused because this book awaked my creativity and instead of reading the next pages I was deeply in flow of my thoughts, and half of this tghouths wasn't even connected to the topics of this book. Thanks to this I write a bunch of interesting ideas in my ideanote a undestrant a lot of things and create powerful messages which I want to follow. I was an inspirational journey thoughs one of the successful team in the world, full of powerful messages, interesting social experiments and breathtaking examples of how the real teams are working.